Thursday, February 16, 2017

The Life of a Single Woman


To be honest, the only time I am reminded of being single is when I am sick, when I go to a wedding or when holidays like Valentines Day or Sweetest Day roll around. That's when the dull ache in my stomach kicks in and I begin to sweat. Well, not sweat, but cry! I have a good cry in the shower or in the pillow and I feel like shit for about 24 hours, and then I am back to normal.

When speaking to my single girlfriends, they all have different ways in which they deal with the dull ache. One of them, a successful journalist with good looks and a strong Christian background, puts on her defense mechanism face to avoid the agony, like for example, by quoting bible scriptures. Her favorite comeback is that Paul, in the bible, speaks about people being single to focus on God. I am not going to get biblical, but the scripture does say something like that, depending on whose spinning the debate.

To me personally, I think that is my girlfriends way of dealing with the single bug. Not an excuse, but kind of her own personal reasoning. I can look at it that way, and probably swallow the pill of being single by going with that school of thought, but it wont last long, especially when someone who is happily married starts quoting the “be fruitful and multiply" scriptures.

My other good girlfriend, the one who likes to have a cocktail from time to time, and attend day parties to look for males in business suits, builds her own wall by saying this generation is pussified. Her reasoning is the typical man today, would rather smoke weed and drink henny, than buy a good roll of toilet paper. She says the typical male she meets either has a nice car and lives with his mother, or no car and leaves in an efficiency. Her claim of fame is that she meets males with 2 or more babies mamas, and by the time child support gets a hold of his wages he has $148.00 dollars to his name. She calls them bitch boys, with phones full of pictures of every girl he has met on dating sites. Lastly, she says that if she is lucky enough to find a man that is good at budgeting his money, most likely he is gay, bisexual, a freak, or is addicted to porn.

I ask her all the time if she feels that way about the male species and can't respect them, why does she set herself up to be hunted? Has she ever thought she may be a closet lesbian? Her answer is simple. “You have to kiss a lot of frogs to find your prince”. “In the meantime, I will settle on someone half decent, like a guy with a nice package, or someone who has money outside of his lunch money to wine and dine me once in awhile”.

Being that I don't have children, I can totally agree with her about the child support issue. Why should I settle down with someone I don't have children with? I am afraid of getting my social media stalked, my tires flat, or strange scratches on my car from disgruntled babies mom? I don't want to deal with someone reminding my boo that I better not touch her children when she drops them off. I don't want those problems. I want to get married. I know I have issues and baggage, but babies mama drama is a game I am not fit to play.

I want to try to build with someone who has the same determination that I do. I work every day, try to get in the gym once in awhile, pray to a higher being, have hobbies, and own my own businesses. I want someone who matches me equally. I want someone with a contingency plan. Since I do not smoke and only drink socially, I don't want someone who smokes loud and stops by the liquor store when they get off of work everyday. Coming from a household with a father who drunk a lot, died from cirrhosis of the liver and abused my mom, I would prefer someone who is a casual drinker only.

I say all of this to say, by no means necessary, do I think I am the hottest thing smoking, but I am sure there is someone who can fit the bill. Let's be realistic here. I look at the the waist training waist beasts on Instagram and weep. I am overweight without a big ass. I do not like to cook. I cook not to starve. I am not Molly Maid. I do clean but I am not on my hands and knees with a toothbrush. If those things appeal to the opposite sex when looking for a female, they will have to pass me by. I am also not a morning person. That means if someone is whistling Dixie at 6:00 a.m., he better be, well never mind.

Lastly, I have a friend that does all the things we have discussed. She is pretty, smart, professional and funny. The trouble is, she's independent but clingy. Word on the street, clingy is not in. You have to play the game. My friend basically chases her suitors away. She gets them but can't keep them. They are attracted to her beauty, her charisma and her professional demeanor, but by the time she calls them 30 times a day, they are tired of feeling like she always checking in on them. The sad part is, she knows this, but she does it anyway. It is kind of like my Amazon Prime habit. I know I can go to Walmart to get toilet paper, but why do it, when I can order it online, get it shipped in two days, and not have to pay shipping.

Back to the single issue, my friend is bad and boujee, but clingy as hell. Not like me who gets off of work and will settle in with cheesecake and a nice bottle of wine. She wants to be bothered at all times. She doesn't have abandonment issues; she suffers from extreme separation anxiety. We have tried to stop her from calling a guy when we go out by taking her phone, but she will make up for it when she gets home, by calling him back to back until he answers. The guy could be sleep or playing ball, she doesn't care, she will call and call until he answers. She will run the ultimate guilt trip and suck the life out of her victim until he backs away, exhausted of being chased literally. When guys meet her, they don't understand why she is single, and they think they have hit the jackpot. She's been engaged 4 times and moved into some pretty nice places, but wine turns to water, as the guy is sucked into her life and wakes up with no life of his own.

I say all this to say, it is hard being single, and it is hard to play the game. There is a lot of single powerful females out there, and a lot of them say, they would rather be single, than have someone abuse their mind, spirit and body. The only problem is, being single for a long period of time can cause bitterness. You can develop habits of taking care of yourself and not meeting new people in fear of going down the same road as before. I know a 35 year old female that goes home to her cat. She posts her cat on Facebook in the bed with the covers over him. She posts the cat like he is her man. When I brought this up to her, she blocked me. I feel sad for her because she has practiced abstinence for so long, by choice, she has grown accustomed to being alone. If someone comes and visit her, he would run quickly from the display of wigs hanging in the bathroom and the cat reclining in the recliner.

I sometimes feel the ping of being single, until I talk to my married friends who are miserable. That is another story for another time. With that being said, I know Mr. Right is not going to knock on my door selling Kirby products, or will he?


HB

Saturday, January 11, 2014

My First Show Tonight as A Promoter

Ive longed for this moment. To bring music to life in form of self expression. It's not everyday I get to celebrate with others part of my dream. Thanks to all who supported me and continue to do so!!!



Thursday, December 19, 2013

Tupac, still today he is a Legend by Shavon Smith



Coming up the two people that inspired me most to become a writer was Tupac and Doogie Howser. It should be obvious why Tupac was and is to this day so inspiring. As far as,  Doogie it was the journals he typed on his computer that showed life lessons. In both it was the narration the way they presented the lesson that always grabbed my attention. We keep asking what is wrong with hip-hop, nothing is wrong with hip-hop. It’s a creative expression coming from some place inside of somebody so it should be respected. However there is a problem with hip-hop that is threatening its purpose. Too many hip-hop voices today are rapping for money and not to reach people. God gave these artist the opportunity to grab the ears of an oppressed people, Tupac is one of the few artist that understood that.


            Tupac hands down in my opinion is the greatest rapper ever. I’ve heard plenty of debates most notably the ones between him and Biggie, but I disagree every time someone gives another rapper the nod. Don’t get me wrong, Biggie was great, so is Jay and Nas and even a few from the new school, but Pac, he was just on a level all his own. There are story tellers and then there is Tupac. He wasn’t just a rapper ,that man was a prophet. Yeah he made songs for entertainment songs for everyday life and the club but he also made songs like “Keep ya Head Up”, “Brenda’s got a Baby”, “Dear Mama” songs that still told the story but in a way that everyone could relate to. He motivated me, forced me to think about life, and my surroundings on a higher level. Tupac made me see the world the way it really is, he made me aware of my place in it and the impact that I have.  That’s why he gets the nod from me because nobody ever painted the pictures he did and made you aware of the harshness and simple reality of life.

            I get a lot of people that down him as a lyricist and I always respond the same way. They must not listen to what he says because the way he has with words is like no other. The descriptions he uses the common sense and awareness that he possessed, not to mention he was extremely well read and you can tell that in his music, but he didn’t overwhelm you with big dictionary words. Instead he gave it to you straight sensitive but blunt, he made you feel the passion he put behind it but most importantly he made you think not turn up and act stupid.

When I first heard “Holla if Ya Hear Me” I cried because of the message that he conveyed, the anger and frustration at the world in which he existed and how a blind eye was being turned by everyone that can fix it. It was my first stand up and fight anthem and it moved me in ways I never understood until I was old enough.  Now more than ever we need a few Tupac’s. We need artist to go into the studio and arm us with tracks that will reach us in ways that will help us become a better people, a better race. We need music we can relate to that speaks for us, because for the most part we don’t have anyone to tell the rest of the world our stories. Sadly we don’t get that but from a few. Granted I love hip-hop I love the entertainment aspects the dancing and the swag the culture in general. But at some point if it is to ever become a positive influence in our society again these artists are going to have to start saying something. They are going to have to start using their voices with purpose as God intended. Entertainment is great but it also does nothing to improve the quality of our people. We need leaders with voices to grab the ears of these young ones and help to start turning them around to get them interested in something more than money, cars, and hoes. Long live Tupac and the message he tried so desperately to get the rest of us to grasp, I hope more artist follow in his path.

I’m not saying I’m gonna change the world but I guarantee I will spark the brain that will change the world”… Tupac.  If only all artist felt like that.
             
Shavon Smith

Tuesday, December 17, 2013

Karrine Steffans Opens Doors for Musician Son


Karrine Steffans' teen son with rapper Kool G Rap is a budding rock guitarist and Karrine uses her connections in the music industry to get his foot in all the right doors...

Saturday, December 14, 2013

ADDICTED TO THE STRIPPING

Nene Leakes is now one of the biggest reality TV stars in the world, but it wasn’t always this way.  Leakes started off by earning her money on the pole, and we’re not talking about the North Pole.
Leakes was a stripper and a pretty good one too.  During an interview with E!’s Giuliana Rancic, Leakes speaks candidly about her life before her life, and how stripping was a great way to pay the bills.  Her nickname was “Silk,” and she says that she did the job when she was 23-years old for approximately three years.
She also says that it was her need to pay the bills that helped the single mom find a way to make a way.
“I remember going home and having something like $1,000 and thinking ‘I made $1,000 in one night. Baby we are doing this tomorrow night.  It became an addiction. I thought I made pretty good money. It was a great hustle.”


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Nene Leakes is now one of the biggest reality TV stars in the world, but it wasn’t always this way.  Leakes started off by earning her money on the pole, and we’re not talking about the North Pole.
Leakes was a stripper and a pretty good one too.  During an interview with E!’s Giuliana Rancic, Leakes speaks candidly about her life before her life, and how stripping was a great way to pay the bills.  Her nickname was “Silk,” and she says that she did the job when she was 23-years old for approximately three years.
She also says that it was her need to pay the bills that helped the single mom find a way to make a way.
“I remember going home and having something like $1,000 and thinking ‘I made $1,000 in one night. Baby we are doing this tomorrow night.  It became an addiction. I thought I made pretty good money. It was a great hustle.”
Leakes says that it was meeting her husband Greg that led her to stop stripping for a living. But she says that despite leaving the stripper game, she doesn’t regret the decision at all.
“I feel like strength comes from within. And…experience makes you strong. And I’ve been through so many things in my life and those things have taught me. I’m one of those girls, every experience, I learned from my experience.”

Sunday, December 1, 2013

J BANDZZ



JBANDZZ GOT NEXT.

Where were you born?
In Columbus, Ohio. September 10, 1994
  
Who inspired you as an artist?

 Meek mill, Lil Snupe, T. I.,2Pac, Drake 

Who did you listen to growing up?
 Bow wow

When did you decide that you wanted to be an artist?
At the age of 7 years old.
 
Who’s your favorite artist to date?
  None

What are you doing different from other artist?
 I think what make me different is that i rap what i live and what see in life.


Who would you like to work with in the game now?
  Meek mill T.I. A lil bit of everybody.

Biggie or Pac?
 Both



Nas or Jay Z? - If neither, why?
 Jay Z


How did you get where you are now?
  I got this far by just chasing my dream and grinding.

Single , married or ready to cuff?
 Single
  
Where can we find you?
ReverbNation at Jandzz , twitter 2Nice18, Instagram JBANDZZ19

When is your next project?
December 5, 2013
   
Shout out to anybody?
 Drake Rip Lil snupe, lil durk , Ti,
 
How long have you lived there
 Been in Columbus OH all my life.
 
Anyone in your family musically inclined?
 Cellus, Dre, lyrics out.

If you were to battle with anyone, who would, you call out?
Ill battle anybody?

What advice could you give up and coming artist?
 Just keep pushing your self no matter what nobody say.

What record label are you looking to sign with, if any?
 Hustle Gang Records, Dream Chasers Records.

Any community service or organization that you would like to donate if you made a million dollars?
homeless people 


Does your family support your grind?
  Yes they support my grind.

What your next move, fam?
 my next move is to get shows pop in make more music.


Who have you collabed with?
cellus dre lyrics out hopefully in the future work with some females.


If you could tour with anyone, who would it be?
 Maybach music group and Heather Henry with Entity Ent.

Who do you think the best rapper is of all time, dead or alive?
the best Rapper is 2pac

Do you like the rap game now, or before when it was LL and Koe Moe Dee?
 Both



Do you think you got the fiyah to fuck with the hard hitters in the industry?
 Yes


Cellus at his Best




 CELLUS

Columbus artist is the most slept on in the industry, with good talent coming from the Bus, Cellus is one of the best. Get to know the next King of Hip Hop.

Where were you born?
 Columbus 

Who inspired you as an artist?
 Slim Dunkin

Who did you listen to growing up?
DMX, JayZ, 1017 Bricksquad label, Bricksquad Monopoly label, Sy ari da Kid, Meek Mill, any many more to name.
 
When did you decide that you wanted to be an artist?
when I recorded my first song at my friend James house. It felt good it was my first time rapping . On a song I felt that I had to do more

Who’s your favorite artist to date?
  My favorite artist till this day is my bro Slim Dunkin

What are you doing different  the other  artist?
 Steady writing lyrics and focus on my punch lines or rhymes.


Who would you like to work with in the game now?

Biggie or Pac?
 Pac
 
Nas or Jay Z? - If neither, why?
Nas
  
How did you get where you are now?
To be honest I have made a lot of mistakes in my life, but I came a long way hearing people tell me  how to live my life, but i realized  the only one who can live your life is you not nobody else Thats what I had to realize,It took awhile but I figured it out

 Single , married or ready to cuff?

  Single

Where can we find you?
You can find me on soundcloud at Melo Smith 1, twitter at @20slimdunkin , Instagram at thekingmmurray_24.

 When is your next project?
Next move is too get a couple performances in with my team #CA$HFLOW & be prepared to work on this collaboration mix-tape that my team CA$HFLOW & FMB are workin on.

What project are you working on now?
My new project is CA$FLOW & FMB THE MIXTAPE ITS A COLLABORATION MIXTAPE.
 
Shout out to anybody?
 Yea S/O to that whole BRICKSQUAD MONOPOLY, 1017 BRICKSQUAD , and R.I P SLIM DUNKIN,S/O To my SQUAD CA$HFLOW, FMB.


 How long have you lived there

Anyone in your family musically inclined?
My uncle is musical talented he can play a guitar, trombone, and some other instruments.

Do you play any instruments?
I tried to play the piano when I was 5 years old.


Who inspired you growing up?
A lot of people inspired me my family, inspirational speakers, but what really inspired me was when this rapper named Slim Dunkin came out. He was apart of 1017 Bricksquad, Bricksquad monopoly.


Who’s in your rotation now?
 My rotation now is with my team CA$FLOW.
If you were to battle with anyone, who would, you call out?
What was your 1st project and did you learn anything from it?

What advice could you give up and coming artist?
Do you think the rap game is over?
How did you get to where you are now?
What record label are you looking to sign with, if any?
Any community service or organization that you would like to donate if you made a million dollars?
Does your family support your grind?
Where can we find you?
What your next move, fam?
Who have you collabed with?
If you could tour with anyone, who would it be?
I would like to work with Rich homie quan, Waka Flocka, sy ari da kid.
 
Who inspired you?
Who do you think the best rapper is of all time, dead or alive?
Do you like the rap game now, or before when it was LL and Koe Moe Dee?

What advice would you give up and coming artist?
What would you like to tell your peers or fans?
Do you think you got the fiyah to fuck with the hard hitters in the industry?